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#41 qwksndmonster

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Posted 13 July 2017 - 04:00 PM

I think you have a Resplendent, Beautiful Face.

#42 inkman

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Posted 13 July 2017 - 04:54 PM

I think you have a Resplendent, Beautiful Face.


Thanks if things don't work out with my wife, I'll shoot you a PM. :wub:

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Posted 13 July 2017 - 05:09 PM

Ink, I got passed over for promotion for the first year and a half at my company. I didn't play the game. It's a happy go lucky company, with all that rah, rah bullsh!t from HR. I came in, I killed it at my job and I was better than 95% of my peers. But I didn't "look like I was having fun" Well no ###### sh!t, Sherlock! I'm at ###### work! If I didn't have to be here to pay for things, I ###### wouldn't be!

Anyway, when a complete ###### head of a colleague got promoted to a spot that should have easily been mine, I had a minor meltdown. I swallowed all my pride and then I sold my soul to these chipper, "Hey, how are ya! Isn't it a beautiful day to be alive" people. Fast forward to 7 years at the company. I've been promoted 4 times because I can fake it so hard in an interview that my own mother wouldn't recognize me.

Wouldn't it be nice if corporations recognized who is smarter and better equipped to handle situations based on actual merit than me having to fake being happy in my current situation? I still kick ass at my job and get nothing but positive reviews from my bosses. But now HR likes me.

If HR knew their ###### from their elbow, I'd ###### marbles.

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Posted 13 July 2017 - 05:52 PM

Indeed. We've called me on it a while back.
 

 

LOL I don't recall that.  I'm sure I meant it in the nicest way.  :P



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Posted 13 July 2017 - 08:41 PM

 you look fine in your avatar



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Posted 14 July 2017 - 01:14 AM

This is a good point.

 

I found this to be thoughtful, balanced, and on the mark.

 

Thanks for the feedback on that.  I almost didn't post that post; I was afraid it wouldn't be taken in the proper spirit.  I meant no ill will toward inky and his look and hoped no one would see it as a knock against him.  He's a righteous dude.


Nope, Freddie ...

 

:flirt:

 

Nice.


Thanks if things don't work out with my wife, I'll shoot you a PM. :wub:

 

A perfect response.



#47 Wyldnwoody44

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Posted 14 July 2017 - 04:29 AM

I will say, In medicine, looks unfortunately go a lot further than capabilities, it's rather sexist and sad, but I digress....

Just be you ink, and F the upper management, I mean you can tweak some small things to make your perception skewed in the right direction, but it doesn't have to be major.

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Posted 14 July 2017 - 06:38 AM

Indeed. We've called me on it a while back.
Yeah and photos from my brothers wedding have me questioning myself. Granted, I'm 12-15 years older than everyone else that was in the wedding party but man did I look like crap. Just old, tired, burnt. I wonder if a lifestyle change is in order. I started smoking weed daily in the last year mostly to help me sleep but I'm curious if that along with an extremely long history of drinking and smoking has made me look like a dirty dish towel.

I can't speak to your situation, only mine. 

I stopped drinking 6 years ago. It's fair to say that my aging processes, both my face and body, have significantly slowed. I had started looking older than I really was. Now, my actual age might be catching up to my appearance age, which is a good thing. This is not me saying "quit drinking". Far from it. It's just an observation that there is no way my 25 year drinking career helped me to appear a happier, healthier person. 
 

Sleep is so important in looking and feeling happy, healthy, etc. Also from own observation of my life, when I have needed substances to help me sleep (alcohol, xanax, ambien...) for anything other than short term severe jet lag (which is a fundamentally unnatural process anyway) it's indicative of deeper 'problems' in my life or lifestyle that need to be corrected to enable a good night's sleep without any substances required. Examples for me have been; excess alcohol intake, excess coffee intake, lack of exercise, excess un-managed stress, etc. Attacking those root cause issues have been high leverage activities that actually improved my life whereas an Ambien every night was really a short term band-aid that didn't really help me long term and started to hurt me after a while. 

 

Best of luck at work...companies make decisions for the wrong reasons all the time. It sucks. Sounds like you need to either change your employer, change your approach to work, or both. Otherwise this sh*t will just keep happening. 



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Posted 14 July 2017 - 07:32 AM

There's some effin' good advice up in here, really.

 

And that's no small trick. Most advice sucks.



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Posted 14 July 2017 - 08:10 AM

I am reluctant to give advice to strangers on subjects that are very personal, but I would cut yourself some slack.  Part of your anxiety stems from the fact that this professional goal was important to you for whatever reason, maybe family or whatever, but it is much more mainstream than you think.  You are soliciting advice.  Another good step.  If you think maybe a course correction is needed, you again are probably in the majority.  Do positive things to make you feel good about you.  Maybe some exercise, more time with Mrs and little Ink volunteering with something your passionate about.  Feel good about yourself and the positivity will extend to others because they won't matter as much.  Your insight here on the board shows you bring a unique point of view that is often well thought out and seldom reactionary or hasty.  That is the grail of management. Next time you are asked something at work, pause, feign momentary reflection, and start your response with "That's an interesting question."  Acknowledging others may help assauge their idea that you do not want to be part of the team.  If that fails you may need to find someplace that values your gifts more appropriately.  Good luck and keep your powder dry.



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Posted 14 July 2017 - 08:42 AM

It's kinda dumb but this is the only think I can think of when I see or hear the word assuage



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Posted 14 July 2017 - 08:53 AM

It's kinda dumb but this is the only think I can think of when I see or hear the word assuage

But you forgot to start with that is an interesting thought... :flirt: Serpentine Shelly