Not sure what your corporate culture is like, but I think the RBF may be only part of it. Your look maybe actually intimidating to some people. They're afraid of you maybe. Or perhaps it connotes "defiant non-conformist" when they'd like to see "cooperative team player." You have a right to look how you want, but there's no denying that looks will affect others' perceptions of you. Maybe in your social circles "defiant" is taken as a positive, so you have to decide whether you're going to follow your social pack or your work pack.
You may feel that your look is part of you, and it's only skin deep and they shouldn't penalize you for it, but you may look at it the other way around. If looks are only skin deep, adopt a look that's more conventional in your corporate culture- grow out your hair and get a traditional haircut; Keep the beard professionally trimmed, etc. It won't change who you are inside, but it may alter others' perception of you. For those who may be skeptical that your defiant mojo isn't what they're looking for, it will communicate to them that you've made a conscious decision to adopt the norms of their "pack"; they'll perceive that you're supportive of the corporate ideals (or their version of it).
I work for a large corporation, and for as much as they like to think they are inclusive and embrace diversity, there's a certain "look" that populates org charts at the higher levels. They all look like they've been to charm school; they all look like they get regular haircuts; they all look pretty boring. It may be RBF, but it could also be that upper management doesn't think you have the look that management should have. You may have t choose between your freedom of personal expression and corporate advancement.
I'm not saying it's right or fair that you should have to do this, but it's part of the world we live in.
Edited by Doohickie, 13 July 2017 - 11:54 AM.